Hey there, how are you doing?
Listen, One thing I found to be a big obstacle (or at least slow us down immensely) in all of our lives is when we get into a rut and in avoidance mode.
It’s when you realize, all of a sudden, that you’re just not doing what you should be doing, you don’t feel like doing it, and frankly it feels that even if you wanted to, you probably couldn’t get yourself to do what you need to be doing.
These are moments where you feel in a rut, and/or in avoidance mode
where you feel like avoiding everything.
Now as an anxiety sufferer, avoidance is a recurring thing we experience everyday. But still, there are times where the avoidance is even stronger.
I don’t need to tell you the consequences of feeling in a rut
and avoiding things and life more than usually.
You sit, feel bad, do nothing, at least not anything productive
(watching movies doesn’t count as being productive!), and you’re
simply not getting ahead getting things done and improving yourself
So the trick, one I find is most important in getting ahead in life is to
have an awareness about this problem everyday, try to catch yourself
when you’re going into the avoidance/rut mode, and break the pattern before
you get too much into it.
This way you will not wastes hours or your whole day not doing what
you need to do and avoid feeling like shit.
Here are the Steps To Breaking the Avoidance and Rut Mode:
1- During and at the end of the day, be a student of yourself.
At the end of the day you analyze what you wanted to do
and what you actually did. Ask yourself what went well
and what didn’t go so well. And identify where you dropped the ball,
avoided things more and/or went in a rut.
Now the key here is to then think about and analyze what happened
just before this happened. What were the circumstances, thoughts
or action you took just before leading to this avoidance and rut?
You can do the same analysis live in real time during the day
when you catch yourself going into extreme avoidance mode
or in a rut. “What just happened before this to get me in this position
The more you do this analysis everyday, the more you will
find pattern of what makes you tick in good ways, and in bad ways.
You’ll discover ets of actions, thoughts and circumstances
that lead you in a rut or avoidance mode.
Sometimes what gets you there is as simple as jumping
on facebook as soon as you wake up. And you realize everytime
you do that you become depressed or it leads you to then watch
1 hour of youtube, and then momentum is just not going in your way
and you end up doing little for the rest of the day.
2- Change or Break the circumstances leading to your rut and avoidance mode.
Once you know what makes you tick and makes you go in a rut or avoidance
mode, make sure not to put yourself in that situation,
or if you don’t have a choice, plan in advance a different
reaction to it.
In the example of jumping on facebook first thing in the morning, your #1 goal
every morning would be to make sure not to get on facebook, but instead keep
this activity for later that day.
You may have to define a new activity or action to take
to replace facebook with. And as soon as you catch yourself
about to jump on facebook once again, do that other activity.
Activities that tends to get you more in motion.
It can be simple things like doing the laundry, doing some exercise,
going on your porch for a few minutes, anything that break
that pattern and tend to get you in a better more active state
3- Analyze your results and fine tune.
Again, at the end of the day you want to analyze and ask yourself what went well
and what didn’t go so well. You see how well you did with regard to those activities
or circumstances that used to get you in a rut or avoidance mode, and see
if things went better with your new response or action you replaced
If things went well keep taking these new actions.
If it still didn’t go so well, go back to analyzing
what happened (physically, mentally, what you told yourself etc)
just before you got in a rut or avoidance mode, and come
up with a different action to take when you’re about to “go there”
to break the pattern and get a new response instead.
Life is often dictated by the sthings that slows
us down more than anything.
If you can remove the self-imposed breaks we put on ourselves,
things will not only improve more but a lot faster.
Identifying how we get in a rut and major avoidance mode and removing the
chances we get there as much as possible is an important part of getting off
the brakes that keep us from going where we wanna go in life.
Find out what gets you in a rut and in avoidance mode,
remove the circumstances that get you there, and if needed
find new sets of actions that brake the pattern and
get you moving instead.
As always, Have a Blast~